God Working With Men And Women
- What caused adultery to become a
part of your life?
- How is adultery effecting the lives of your loved ones
and friends?
- Where will adultery lead?
- Is adultery consistent with
your faith; and with your goals for
the future?
God will help !!
* Thank God for the blessings that are yours because of the
marriage
* Praise your Heavenly Father for His love, His concern, and His
power
* Ask God to
forgive and help all involved in, and effected by the adultery
* Spend more time with God, His ideas
and His people
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Other resources:
Restore Ministries - Healing
Marriages
Adultery
Adultery: An
Exploration of Love and Marriage
Adultery ... Avessel, Our Gateway Coordinator
What Is Adultery?
Adultery is first and foremost Sin! It is engaging in any form of sexual
activity with someone other than your lawful spouse. It is the willful breaking
of the marriage vow.
Why Is It Wrong To Commit Adultery?
Adultery is wrong because it breaks one of the first covenants established
in the bible. “Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined
to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” (Ge. 2:24 NKJV) Marriage is a
covenant or a commitment. If the integrity (virginity) of the wife was in tact
at the time of the marriage then a blood covenant was established on the wedding
night (note that lack of sexual purity on either parties part does not weaken
the level of commitment each is expected to adhere to). Adultery is a
violation or breaking of that covenant. Man and woman were made to come together
and stay together.
It is important to understand that adultery is more than
just cheating on your spouse. Sex is more than just a physical act, it is
spiritual as well. It is not two bodies lying together for a short time it is
two spirits coming together in the most intimate way in which two human beings
can encounter one another. They are not meant to separate at this point. When
this happens a tearing occurs and that is what causes pain. This is one of the
reasons that divorce is so painful for both the man and woman. As a matter of
fact, the only biblical excuse for divorce is adultery. “But I say to you that
whoever divorces his wife for any reason except sexual impurity causes her to
commit adultery…” (Mt. 5:32 NKJV)
Do I Have To Have Sex In Order To Commit Adultery?
No! According to the Word of God all you have to do is lust after someone
other than your spouse. Adultery begins in the heart long before it becomes
physical. “You have heard that it was said to those of old, You shall not
commit adultery. But I say to you whoever looks at a woman to lust for her
has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” (Mt. 5:27, 28 NKJV)
How Did Adultery
Become A Part Of Your Life?
It came about by choices that you made.
You have to choose to lust after someone other than your spouse. You have to
choose to take the first step in making contact with the person you desire. You
choose to set a time and place to meet. You choose to lay down with that person
in a physical relationship. Adultery comes about by choice. Just as you choose
to commit adultery you can choose to honor your wedding vows and be faithful to
your spouse. “Let no one say when he is tempted, “I am tempted by God”, for God
cannot be tempted by evil, nor does He Himself tempt anyone. But each one is
tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed. Then, when desire
is conceived, it gives birth to sin, and sin, when it is full-grown, brings
forth death.” (James 1:13-15 NKJV)
How is adultery
affecting the lives of your loved ones?
Adultery will have long-lasting
devastating affects on your loved ones. This occurs through your time spent away
from home while committing adultery. It can occur through the distraction you
may encounter just thinking about the other person. Anything that takes your
time and attention away from your home, spouse, children, family or friends will
impact them tremendously. Shame or guilt caused by adultery will tend to make
one distant or withdrawn this will affect your relationships on many different
levels.
ONLY God Can Help!
Begin by repenting. God promises that “If we confess our sins, He is
faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all
unrighteousness.” (1John 1:9 NKJV) This may also repenting to your spouse for
the sin you have committed against her/him.
Make a renewed commitment to
your spouse and to your vows. Make the choice to remain committed to your
marriage no matter what.
Spend time in prayer and
devotion to God daily. Ask Him to strengthen you and to keep you from
temptation.
Learn to better communicate
your needs to your spouse. Whatever was lacking from them, ask them to provide
for you. You may need to seek qualified help for this from your pastor or a
counselor.
Surround yourself with
Godly people.
Though he brings grief, he will show compassion, so
great is his unfailing love. - Lamentations 3:32
